Stop shaming, and uplift each other!!

In todays world there are so many issues. From gun control, guns, criminals, to police brutality, to police kindness, to celebrities, to restroom issues. We also have shaming issues, whether it is fat/body image shaming, mother shaming, ect. There are so many negative issues it's unreal. Our workday today seems like it's all about tearing each other down to get ahead, instead of encouraging each other to become successful. Uplifting each other is not normal. If your views or lifestyle doesn't fit the normal itinerary you get harassed.
Being a mom I am constantly hearing about other mothers judging each other because of how they raise their children. We are all human, we all make mistakes, and none of us are perfect. We are all learning what works for us.
As a mother, my husband and I decided it was best if I stay home. I breast fed both of my children. I know mom's who tried and could keep breast feeding, mom's who choose to formula feed, and go back to work. There's no wrong way to do things, however unless your neglectful and harming your children that's wrong! However instead of degrading and tearing each other down for our different views I think we need to start up lifting each other!
No more #breastisbest but instead #fedisbest. I'm not just talking about mom's here there are a lot of issues in our society today. How about no more #blacklivesmatter but instead #alllivesmatter. I think if we started following the rules and encouraging each other our society would change immensely.
Whether you let your baby cry it out, or you never let them cry it out. Or you let your children watch TV or you have set time limits on their TV time. It doesn't matter, we are all our own persons and we all have different parenting styles. We need to start encouraging each other.
Raising children is hard enough, see there's a reason there is that saying it takes a village to raise children and it's so true. Because it takes friends, family, spouses, all coming together encouraging each other to be the best we can be. It is so hard to be honest about our struggles now a days. Because if you open up, people judge whether they mean to or not, and society has this false reality that if you struggle with post partum your not fit. Post partum depression happens to most women, it's normal, and sometimes it's more severe then others. However it's not a topic that people like to talk on. Because in societies eyes your just supposed to push it down and be good and perfect and not struggle. But in reality lots of women struggle with this. Post partum depression is real and it's a dangerous monster to mess with. I've had post partum depression and post partum depression rage. They both suck, and when I had my son and as he got older I had thoughts of hurting him and myself, it was a dark time. I was scared to talk about it cause I thought if I was honest I'd be put in a nut house. Or my son would be taken. But once I opened up and started talking about it, it got easier and there were a lot of women who wanted to help me!! I took the first step and told my husband, I was terrified he would hate me, but I got the opposite reaction he was proud I'd told him. Talking about it helped me not be embarrassed, I stopped holding it I and I was honest with my self and admitting I needed help was scary but so worth it.
After my daughter was born my post partum depression got worse. It turned into post partum depression rage. I was angry all the time. Little things that shouldn't bother me did. My relationship with my son was hurting. I was constantly yelling and being grumpy. I didn't have motivation to really do anything. It wasn't until I saw how angry my son was, that I asked for help again. He was mimicking my anger and rage.
As well one time I lost my control, I was yelling and screaming at my son, and I saw fear in his little-known Brown eyes. Seeing his fear stricken face stopped me in my tracks, I couldn't believe he was afraid of me.
I hadn't wanted to be honest with my self. I grew to resent my husband and son a little bit. But I've grown so much in the past year. Every now and then I loose my control, but I try not to. I love my little family so much. I have come back stronger, from wanting to hurt myself and my son, to doing well.
I feel like if we stop all the shaming of others differences, and we start embracing that we are all different. And start being an encouragement to each other our society would be quite great. A lot less angry and hateful and more full of love and joy.
I thank God that I'm here, that each day is a new day to be better then I was. I'm happy I can share my struggles and no longer am held by my fears and embarrassment by my feelings and by my post partum depression and rage. I've come to find that me sharing my struggles has helped some of my friends.
So I'm going to keep fighting this war inside my heart and I'll keep climbing higher from this moment on!!
GOD BLESS!!!